In
20 years coaching college and pro football I have seen my share of tough-guys.
I've coached guys who played hurt, overcame a tough upbringing and persevered
after being cut multiple times.
One
individual stands out above all the rest when it comes to
toughness. One guy, who has displayed a
mental toughness beyond all others.
In
football the words mental toughness are used by every coach. What exactly is mental toughness? Different coaches define mental toughness
differently. To me, mental toughness is
the ability to stay positively focused on the present, no matter the past
circumstance.
No
one personifies this definition of mental toughness like my friend Danny
Sipple. He is my hero.
Born
with spina bifida and a laundry list of secondary ailments, Danny got his first
wheel chair at age 5. Danny has had 43
surgeries and has been in and out of hospitals countless times. MIRSA, kidney
and bone infections, amputation and 3 stints on a ventilator... Danny has beat
them all. I have never asked what
Danny's life expectancy was when he was born...it is irrelevant. I do know what Danny's current life
expectancy is... He expects to live each day 100% to the fullest. See, it's not that Danny has beat all these
odds, it's the way he does it. He defies
the odds each and every day with a smile on his face and with a genuine concern
for others. He stays positively focused
on the present, no matter the past circumstance. Each person Danny encounters is a blessing
for the individual who crossed Danny's path.
He is the person that brings me the most strength and comfort when times
are "tough" in my life. He is
the example when trying to teach mental toughness to my children.
Danny
is a passionate fan of Jesus Christ, his mother and multiple Chicago sports
teams.
When
I met Danny almost 10 years ago it was random luck (or divine intervention)at
Riverfest. A county-fair-type gathering
in our village of South Elgin, IL (a Chicago Suburb). I said hello and asked Danny how he was
doing. Danny was sporting his
now-familiar overalls and Cubs hat and the conversation quickly turned to
sports. Danny began to share his passion
for his favorite teams, which included the Chicago Rush Arena Football Team.
Danny went on about "how
awesome" the Rush were and how much he loved going to the games. At the time, I was coaching for the
Rush. (A fact I did not share with Danny
as we talked for almost an hour). Later
that night, I introduced Danny to my family and friends and he brought his Mom
(Kim) over to meet us. Small world...My
family had been stopping to see Kim (and her dog Hogan) at the village hall
before my daughter's preschool. Danny
eventually found out I coached for the Rush.
A friendship quickly ensued...
We
had Danny over to our house for dinner with AFL legends Dennison Robinson and
DeJuan Alfonzo. I began hanging out with
Danny. I was doing something I thought
would benefit someone else. To be
honest, someone I thought was less fortunate.
Little did I know, I was the one who would benefit from our
friendship. Little did I know, I could
only hope to be as fortunate as Danny.
I
don't know the exact number of times I have been to see Danny in the
hospital. I can't guess how many phone
calls have come from his hospital bed.
I'm not sure how many times Kim has called asking for prayers that Danny
makes it through the night. No clue how
many times Kim has called to let me know Danny made it through another
surgery. But, I do know, it never gets
old when Danny calls to say "Hey Brother, guess where I am? That's right,
I'm home!"
I
also know the exact number of times I
have heard Danny complain, feel sorry for himself or have a negative attitude.
I know exactly how many times I have heard him wallow in self-pity. A big fat zero! That's right...zilch, zippo, nada,
never...Danny defines mental toughness.
Through the 104 degree fevers, the breathing tubes jammed down his
throat, the 119 day hospital stay, bed sores, doctors appointments, surgeries
and more... to Danny every day is a blessing.
Every challenge an opportunity.
Every mountain, no hill for a climber.
He remains focused only on the present, no matter the past
circumstance. Danny is mental toughness
defined. Through all the challenges,
Danny has a passion for life. A spirit
and positive outlook unmatched . That's
why he is my hero!
Recently,
Danny recovered from what was expected to be a minor hospital stay. He called, as he always does, to tell me he
was home. When I spoke with him, I did not tell him I loved him and that he was
my hero. As we were wrapping up the
phone call, my door was open and someone came in to ask me a question. I got off the phone without letting him
know. The next day, I received the
all-to-frequent call from Kim asking for prayers. As often happens, his fever had spiked and
Danny had been rushed back to the hospital.
As he always is, Danny was so excited to be back home the day
before. I felt awful and was filled with
regret for not letting Danny know how I felt about him. I vowed I would never let that happen
again. Now, I always tell Danny how much
I love him and that he is my hero. I
will not miss the opportunity again. Danny taught me that. Danny has taught me to look for
opportunities. Danny gives me free
advice. Danny prays for me to be a
better father. Danny has taught me more
about mental toughness than any player I ever coached.
So
today on your 28th Birthday Danny, I
thought I would share a little bit about the toughest player ever. The toughest
player in the biggest game. We can all
learn from you Danny. May we all see
ourselves as fortunate . May we all show
more concern for others. May we all stay
positively focused on the present, despite our past circumstance.
You
are my hero. I love you brother! Happy Birthday, Dan-man!